eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


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September 20, 2017

‘I’m Embarrassed by My Lengthy Break Up’

Dear Sara: I was single for 10 years before I met my ex, and we were together for two years. Then we had a weird/sad breakup that lasted about a year. We broke up and got back together a bunch of times, so I didn’t tell anyone we broke up until recently. Also, we are […]

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lack of relationship history
September 15, 2017

‘How Do I Explain My (Lack of) Relationship History?

Dear Sara: When I’m dating, I really struggle with how to answer questions about my (lack of) relationship history. Within a few dates, the question about past relationships inevitably comes up, and I never know how to answer this. I want to be honest, but as someone in my 30s with little relationship history, I […]

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dating tips not relationship material
September 15, 2017

4 Signs Your Date isn’t Actually Looking for a Relationship

Someone telling you that he or she is looking for a relationship isn’t the same thing as really and truly wanting one. Anyone can utter the right words, but words often aren’t matched by behavior. At the end of the day, it shouldn’t matter what your date says about wanting a relationship; what matters is […]

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dating advice yelp for people
September 11, 2017

Wishing For a Yelp for People

Sometimes I wish that there was a site, kind of like Yelp, where I could check out a guy’s rating before I went out with him, or, let’s be honest, write my own. I think I’d start with my college ex boyfriend, the one who told me we needed to talk and took me down […]

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bad dates
September 8, 2017

How to Prevent Bad Dates

Everyone has a story about a “worst date ever.” Occasionally, you’ll hear a real doozy. But in most cases these supposed online dating horror stories tend to fall into two categories: The person doesn’t look or sound anything like what you had expected. Or they say or do something that falls outside of the realm […]

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dating advice
September 8, 2017

The 8 Most Common Dating Questions: Answers from Dr. Seth

Despite the vast individual differences between the millions of men and women currently dating and looking for a partner, most people have the basic same questions about dating. Take a look at the list below and hopefully the straight-shooting answers will be helpful. Store them in your memory and remind yourself of these answers the […]

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ready for relationship
August 31, 2017

6 Signs You’re Ready For a Real Relationship

During a recent conversation with an acquaintance, the topic turned to how she had met her husband. “I can’t explain it,” she said. “I just woke up one morning and decided I wanted to be married.” So a friend set her up. She and her date hit it off. And suddenly after decades of near-misses […]

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laboroflovebook
August 22, 2017

Moira Weigel Talks Love and The Invention of Dating

If you’ve ever wondered about the origins of dating, Moira Weigel’s book Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating is for you. She goes into the history (hint: dating hasn’t been around that long) and shares insights along the way (for example: people have always been skeptical about the ways men and women meet and […]

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romance august
August 22, 2017

Men or Women: Who Needs Romance More? (2 Million People Have Spoken)

Anyone in a relationship knows (or should know) that romance and romantic gestures are key to keeping their partners feeling connected and happy. In the spirit of Romance Awareness month, I asked the all-knowing research scientists at eharmony to look into the importance of being romantic. Who cares about romantic gestures the most? The team […]

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should i stay or go
August 17, 2017

‘Should I Stay or Should I Go?’

Dear Sara, I am a young family/divorce lawyer and despite seeing hundreds of cases of couples who don’t work out, I am still trying to find the recipe for what I should look for in finding the right guy or what will make a marriage last. I am 32 years old and recently started dating […]

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